Happy Goals – Week 11

Well, Thanksgiving came and went, and along with it, a lovely, long weekend. And now it seems, it’s time to march on toward the next holiday! No complaints from me. This is one of my happiest times of the year.

Christmas Season

 

I thoroughly enjoyed my long weekend, busy as it was. Thanksgiving flew right on by with hardly a moment to really stop and appreciate it. I spent most of the day cooking in the kitchen and trying to time everything just right so I could haul it all over to my sister’s house for dinner. By the time we got there, I was busy helping in my sister’s kitchen. We ate. We cleaned up. We had dessert. We went home. I never even took a single photo. :-(

But that’s not to say I didn’t accomplish some goals!

  • Family and Home – The absolute best part of Thanksgiving Day was working in the kitchen with Kacey. We work well together, and I just enjoy her company so much that all that work seemed fun! On Friday, we decorated for Christmas. And on Saturday, Brad, Heather and her mom came to visit. We girls spent the morning at the bridal shop with Heather trying on wedding dresses and Kacey trying on bridesmaid dresses. Heather looked so beautiful that I started tearing up already at the thought of her marrying my Brad. We feel so lucky to have such a beautiful person to love our son and join our family.
  • Mental and Educational – I declared Sunday to be mental health day and spent it in the living room, with my pillow, watching Christmas movies and napping here and there.
  • Physical and Health – I’m slowly getting back to exercise, but not nearly as quickly as I’d like. I still have a twinge in my back, but overall, it seems to be improving. I’ve limited myself to the treadmill for the time being. I think Jillian Michaels is out of the picture for a while. I think I’ll give yoga a try.
  • Financial and Career – Busy days at work… I often feel as if I’m juggling responsibilities. But I’m still feeling positive and productive.
  • Social and Cultural – Had dinner out with friends, bowling league and a HUGE surprise birthday party, all on Saturday night. I think this fulfills the goal of socializing. And might also explain why I allowed Sunday to be lazy mental health day.
  • Spiritual and Ethical – The bell ringers are out in full force with their Salvation Army kettles. I kept my commitment to be charitable and managed to keep a few bucks on hand at all times last week so that I could contribute a little each time I encountered one. And I’ll keep doing this as often as possible this holiday season.
Lucy and Kacey

Lucy enjoyed the long weekend too. We love when Lucy shares her furniture with us.

 

 

If only I coulda got away with a kick in the pants…

I’ve realized something about myself lately. I’ve become sort of bitter. I’m hanging onto a grudge or two. It took me a long time to reach the point of grudgery. I can typically take a lot before I break down and give up. But I’ve reached that point with a couple of people. And I hadn’t even realized it but in the back of my mind, I’ve been hoping for a chance to show the begrudged ones that I’ve given up on them. I don’t expect anything good from them anymore. I anticipate only the worst from any future interaction I’m forced to have with them. And the next time I’m proven right, I’ll demonstrate that I am not willing to play along any longer.  I will not bow down to their bad behavior. I’ll show them!

Except… I’ve realized something else. The only one really suffering here is me. I’m sure the begrudged ones don’t even have any idea that I’m over here, building brick walls to keep them away from me. While I’m busy waiting for my chance to show them they can’t hurt me anymore, to make them be the ones who feel hurt and bewildered, they are happily going about their lives. I’m pretty sure they are  oblivious to me and all the energy I’m expending being angry at them.

Family. Difficult coworkers. All kinds of people can make you crazy if you let ‘em. Thankfully, I’ve got a friend who’s a great listener. She’s experienced her own share of challenging relationships. She hears me out when I need it, and offers words of advice when she thinks I’m open to them. We took a break from our work the other day and walked around the pond outside our office building.

“I’m too wrapped up in all this negativity,” I told her. “I can’t stand myself sometimes, I’m so miserable to be around.”

“You’re not miserable to be around,” she defended me.

“You’re being nice,” I said. “How many times are you going to listen to me bitch about the same stuff before you get sick of me too?”

“You’re just working through it in your own time,” she said.

“Well, I have to do something different,” I said. I went on to tell her that I really need to shift my thoughts to more positive things. I want to give myself regular goals to strive for. All this free time I have now that my kids are grown can be great. But sometimes it gives me too much unstructured time to let my thoughts sink to the wrongs I have “suffered” and I end up stuck in a vicious cycle, replaying those wrongs over and over in my head, dreaming up ways to come out ahead in these relationships. It’s not healthy.

She said she could use some positive, productive things to focus on too. As we walked, I mentioned a mutual friend’s habit of setting weekly physical, mental and social goals. I said I thought I should do something similar. Our mutual friend finds an inspiring quote each week and writes it on her whiteboard at work. I said I thought that was a good habit too. As we finished up our walk, we had a new resolve to keep positive thoughts in our heads and to do random acts of kindness. Most importantly, we weren’t going to let difficult people sway our focus from the positive and healthy track.

And immediately upon our return to work, there seemed to come to both of us an onslaught of frustrating conversations and interaction with a particularly difficult person. My resolutions were so new! I was weak! I felt as if once again, I’d been hammered on unfairly. I wouldn’t think to treat others so disrespectfully, even in my own worst emotional moments. Why is it so easy for some? I couldn’t help myself. I sent an instant message to my comrade.

Me: Someone needs a Xanax.

Her: Someone needs something!

Me: Are you thinking of a boot? To go up something?

Her: YES! Or a gag to go IN something!

From my cubicle, I could hear my friend trying to stifle her own laughter, just as I was doing. Playing the role of doormat is a miserable feeling, but the burden is so much lighter when you’ve got a friend standing (laying?) right beside you. Oh, but I was so disappointed in myself for stooping to my old ways so soon after vowing to handle difficult people in a more positive and mature manner. But that didn’t stop the quiet belly-laugh I was enjoying. Laughter feels so good sometimes, and clearly, my friend and I needed some at that moment.

You know what they say! Laughter is the best medicine. Tomorrow! Tomorrow I’ll start acting on those healthy, mature responses!

My parents are getting old and it scares me

The phone calls are starting to feel too familiar. At least this time it didn’t come in the middle of the night. I was just starting to settle down to read for a while before bedtime rolled around on Tuesday night when the phone rang.

It was my dad, asking what I was doing. It was late enough in the evening that I knew it wasn’t just a casual call.

“What do you need, Dad?”

He hemmed and hawed, saying something about Mom not feeling so great but that she had a doctor’s appointment in the morning. I was aware that my mom had picked up a respiratory bug recently and knew it was not good for her already ailing lungs. It seems that Mom was now coughing so much that she couldn’t catch her breath and it was making her feel panicky. Dad said he had made a call to their clinic’s after-hours service and then he just seemed to fumble with what to say or ask next.

“Do we need to take Mom to the ER,” I aked? In hindsight, I shouldn’t have asked but rather insisted.

“Well, I kind of think so,” Dad said. “But Mom isn’t sure she wants to go.”

Dad wanted to wait to hear back from the on-call doctor. I had little faith that a doctor who doesn’t know my mom’s immense medical history would be in the least bit helpful. I told Dad to give it half an hour. If the doctor didn’t call by then, we should go to the emergency room.

Turns out the doctor did call and of course, she knew nothing of my mom’s conditions. The doctor’s recommendation was that Mom try breathing steam. I knew this would do nothing to ease her symptoms and I was frustrated with myself for even agreeing to wait for that call. Mom’s got pulmonary fibrosis caused by Scleroderma and she’s been told she is an extreme and severe case. She is so frail, it makes me sad.

I told Dad we needed to go to the ER. Again, he said Mom wasn’t sure she wanted to go. I tried to keep my frustration in check. It’s a good thing Dad couldn’t see me rolling my eyes.

“Dad, does Mom think she can get through the night until she can see the doctor in the morning?”

I heard him relay the question to Mom and then he returned to the phone to tell me she didn’t think so. I took charge then and told Dad that I would be over to the house in fifteen minutes. He and Mom should be ready to get in the car and we were going to the ER.

ImageThe emergency room has become too familiar. I know just where to park and where to check in a patient. I know there will be a visit with the triage nurse before a room will be assigned. I know to bring a book along because we’ll often end up sitting in that room in the ER for hours, explaining symptoms and medical history to multiple nurses, technicians and doctors. There’s usually a shift change and it all has to be explained again to more doctors and nurses. I’ve learned to bring a book to pass the time.

Mom was given a nebulizer treatment and a steroid to help ease her cough and open up her lungs. She had an EKG and a chest x-ray. Her doctors this time around were wonderful… very compassionate. The medical staff seemed to understand more about her condition than I remember in the past. Her condition used to seem a bit foreign to most medical professionals who were unfamiliar with Mom’s history. This time they seemed more knowledgeable. I couldn’t help but notice the looks of pity as Mom explained how long she’d been dealing with her disease and how extreme it had become.

As I listened to my mom talk to her caregivers, I made note of many red flags in the things she told them. She knows water is important to her well-being but doesn’t drink much of it because it makes her have to use the bathroom. Using the bathroom means going up and down stairs. Going up and down the half-flight of stairs to the bathroom is enough to exhaust her and make her feel sick, so she doesn’t drink water.

If she could just sit still for any length of time, she said she might not be so wiped out all the time, but  she can’t sit around for hours each day and still try to maintain her household.She doesn’t sleep well at night because Dad is diabetic and she needs to be on alert for changes in his well-being. Dad can no longer drive, so she is responsible for taking him to his appointments, to his church activities and on errands.

More than once I heard Mom insinuate, or say outright that she was becoming a burden to her kids. I insisted she wasn’t, but it became more and more clear that staying in their house is simply more than my parents can handle. Their multi-level home has become too much for them. To be honest, I’ve thought so for a long time. A couple of years ago, they found a single-level town home less than a mile from me that would have been perfect. Then Dad suddenly decided he didn’t want to give up the house. I know it’s scary for him to think about leaving the place that’s been home for over twenty-years. I can’t make it easier for him. And so they remain where they are.

How do people do this? How do the children trade roles with the parents without damaging relationships and diminishing self-esteem? It’s so clear to me that my parents can’t manage things on their own. We, their kids, try to do what we can. We cook. We clean house and do laundry. We mow lawn and shovel snow. We take Dad to appointments when Mom is too weak to leave the house. We take Mom to appointments when she is too sick to take herself. We pick up groceries and necessities and call to check on them. We rearrange work schedules and take time off when necessary. But it’s a challenge at times. We all work full time. Some of us have young families and hectic schedules. One brother has the added burden of having gone back to school.

Dad made a doctor appointment for himself yesterday. Mom was still in the hospital and no one was sure when she’d be released. I’m pretty sure Dad scheduled the appointment before checking with anyone to see when someone might be able to take him. Sometimes he calls and needs someone to come “right now.” The doctor appointment worked out in the end, but not before three of us kids scrambled to figure out who could make room in their schedules to make the 4:15 appointment.

I’m not complaining. I want to help, but we have to figure out how to do this better. I live the closest and my kids are grown. My sister works from home and has the benefit of a flexible work schedule. We are called upon most often to help. And we are happy to do so, but it is often a challenge. Something needs to change, but the thought of our parents aging, the thought of their diminishing health is scary. I’ve tried to organize a family discussion but it dissolved into a major rift between the siblings. We don’t all share the same level of worry. Some think that others are overreacting about the severity of the situation. We don’t always each understand one another’s viewpoints and it causes such discord at times.

Mom was released from the hospital yesterday and for now, things have settled down. My sister will go over today to take care of things. I’ll take a turn tomorrow, maybe cook some meals to put in the freezer so they don’t have to worry about cooking.

This stage of life is icky and scary. I have constant feelings of worry and constant feelings of guilt over not doing enough. I am often the one who takes Mom to the emergency room and this time, I heard such worry in her words. I sense that she doesn’t want to ask someone else to make decisions, but that if her kids stepped in and took charge, she might be relieved. At the very least, my parents need some in-home assistance. Soon – they need to get out of that house with all of the stairs and the big yard with the steep hill. I’m not sure all of my siblings would agree, but I was in that room in the ER with my mom. She is scared. She needs relief.

At least I know we’re not alone in this situation. I talk to so many of my friends of the same age. They are experiencing similar things with their parents. Mark’s family is battling the same problems. His dad’s health is going downhill quickly.

God, life is hard sometimes.

Inside the IT guy’s head

Big things are happening at the office! We’ve been working our butts off and we’ve finally completed the first phase of our project. We’ve been holed up in a conference room for months now, three of us. Sometimes the other few members of the team come in and touch base, but mostly we three create tests and run files and study the results. We document what needs fixing and the IT guys fix it. Then we do it all over again. I really have never worked so hard in my life and for the most part, I love it.

Much of the time, if you were to walk by and peek in, you’d see our heads bowed over our documents as we stare at Excel spreadsheets. Sometimes there is conversation. Sometimes we are so deep in our own thoughts and it is so quiet you could hear a pin drop.

Recently, the IT guys have joined us in the conference room. As our phase one deadline approached, we could be more efficient if we could just verbalize problems and the IT guys could fix it on the spot.

The IT guys are a little… different. Yes, I know IT guys tend to have a reputation for being slightly off. Our guys do voices. It cracks me up. They make up nicknames for various reports and sing them into songs. They walk around in their socks. One of them drinks gallons of Diet Coke every day. He’s not to be messed with before noon, but after he’s had his fill of caffeine, he’s happy as a clam. That’s when I ask him to fix things for me and I’m most likely to get the desired result.

I had a conversation with Dale today. I had evaluated some online stuff and found things that weren’t working right. I needed to show him what wasn’t working so he could fix it. I pointed to a particular report.

“See these records,” I asked? “Everything displays except for the names. Why aren’t the names showing up?”

Dale spoke out loud as he took notes, “Names are being shy. Help them come out of their shells.”

I laughed, then leaned over to peek at his notes.

“You actually wrote that,” I exclaimed.

“Hell yeah,” Dale said! “The report’s a party! We gotta make sure everyone has fun there!”

Mmmm-kay…

Later, we were back to having our heads down and buried deep in our own thoughts. Dale left the room for a few minutes. When he returned, he slid back into his chair and broke the silence.

“You know how Spiderman shoots a web from his wrist?”

Joe and I both looked up.

“Yeah,” we both replied.

“Why do you think he doesn’t make better use of that? I mean, he could just sit in his chair and shoot the web across the table to grab a pen and pull it back to himself. Why would he ever get up to go get something? Do you think he’s just being lazy by not using the web more?”

“Hmmm,” I responded. “You’re right. If he wanted a beer, he could shoot a web over to the fridge and pull it open. Then he could shoot another one to grab his beer!”

“See,” Dale asked? “You get it.”

He seemed really excited that I’d caught on to his theory so easily.

“Yeah, but maybe he’s being green,” I said. “If he shoots the web all the time, that’s a lot of web to have to pick up.”

“Not an issue,” Dale replied. “The web dissolves in like an hour.”

Who knows these things?

“Okay, then maybe he’s being health conscious,” I argued. “If Spidey sits around all the time and brings everything to himself with his web shooter, he’d never have to get out of his chair. He’d get fat.”

“Nah,” Dale disputed. “He came around in like the seventies. They weren’t health conscious back then.”

Suddenly I stopped and looked at Dale. “I can’t believe I’m actively participating in this conversation!”

Joe smiled, amused. He’d been smart enough to keep any opinions he may have had about Spiderman to himself.

“You should work with us more often,” I told Dale. “You crack me up, making me contemplate things like the Spidey web.”

Dale just smiled. I couldn’t tell if he was really being funny, or if he seriously contemplates things like this in his head on a regular basis. Didn’t really matter to me anyway. I realized that Dale was probably some of the best stress relief I’d seen in weeks.

I wonder what we’ll debate tomorrow? World peace? Why fun-size candy bars shouldn’t be cut with a knife and eaten in smaller portions? (Actually, we already had that conversation.) Anyway, I’m fascinated with the strange way his mind works. I just hope it doesn’t rub off on me too much.

Blizzard!

It snowed all day long on Saturday. Twenty inches of snow fell in our area! It’s been a very long time since we got that much snow all at once. All day long, I kept looking out the windows in awe of the power of a snow storm.

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Great Weekend!

This past weekend was such a good one! It was my birthday on Friday and my day was filled with good wishes and fun. Mark was working the night shift this past week, and so even though he wasn’t home when I woke up that morning, and wouldn’t be before I left for work, he made sure I knew he’d remembered. He left a gift bag on my bathroom vanity where he was sure I would see it first thing in the morning. Inside was a big box of Godiva chocolates!

When I arrived at work that day, I found my cubicle festively decorated with birthday banners and there were fresh, warm bagels for everyone in honor of my day, courtesy of my friend, Megan. The day passed quickly and I was looked forward to the coming evening. My friend, Kendra had contacted me weeks before to arrange a fun night out at a local bar where a popular local band was playing. Word had spread around the office about this plan and several of my coworkers were on board to join the fun.

I got home early from work on Friday afternoon and went to spend an hour at the gym. When I walked into the house after being at the gym, looking through the railing into the living room, I noticed someone wearing a baseball hat sitting in the chair facing away from me. At first I thought it was Kacey’s boyfriend, but pretty quickly, I realized it was my favorite oldest son, Brad! Brad, Heather and Dakota dog had come home from Fargo to spend the weekend for my birthday. The day just kept getting better!

I felt a little bad about my evening plans, since Brad and Heather had just driven four hours to come home just for me. Brad told me not to worry though. They were coming with for the party! Kacey had her own plans with friends, Jake went off with his uncles for a weekend of deer hunting, and Mark went to work. So when the time came, Brad, Heather and I piled into the car. We swung by Megan’s house to pick her up and we headed to the bar where we found Kendra and her hubby. Kendra introduced me to a couple of her friends, including Joey, the lead singer of the band.

Soon the band was playing and they were really good! Early on, between songs, I heard my name being called out. I looked around to try to figure out where it was coming from and I realized it had come from the stage. Kendra grabbed my arm and said, “Come on! It’s your birthday and you need to go up there!” My first instinct was to feel embarrassed, but then I just decided to have fun with it. As we approached the stage, Joey told me to get up there. He announced to all that it was my birthday and asked how old I was, to which Kendra shouted out “Twenty-two!” (She was half right.) Joey then handed me a shot and asked everyone if they agreed I should drink it. Of course they agreed. Of course I drank it. Thankfully, we danced all night long, so any alcohol consumed had little chance to catch up with me. It was an incredibly fun night!

By the time we headed home, it was well after midnight and it had been snowing like crazy for some time. I didn’t think much of it. The past week had been unseasonably warm and although I knew we were supposed to get snow this weekend, I didn’t expect it to hang around long. So imagine my surprise when I woke up Saturday morning and looked out the window to see a very heavy, very wet accumulation of snow that looked like it had no intention of going away anytime soon. The snow was so heavy it weighed down the branches on the trees and I worried some would break right off. We were lucky. None of our trees lost branches, but I saw plenty of others in the area this weekend that did.

It continued to snow all day long on Saturday, and we enjoyed a lazy day around the house watching the winter scenes outside the window. It was the kind of snow that required shoveling of the driveway a couple of times. Brad and Heather shoveled early in the day, giving Dakota a chance to romp around in the snow and burn off some energy. Later on, after we’d all gone out to dinner at Applebee’s, Brad, Heather, Kacey and I shoveled the driveway of a neighbor who was driving home from Chicago and arriving after midnight. She had called our house to see if she’d be able to get in her driveway and Brad told her we’d make sure she could. So we took care of the neighbor’s driveway and then cleared ours again. It was tiring work, but not so bad with four people working on it. The snow blower was worthless. It kept jamming with the sticky, wet snow. And I broke a shovel under the weight, but we managed to get it all done. As a reward afterwards, we picked up some movies and we watched Toy Story 3 together (really cute and fun) and The Hangover. (I hadn’t seen this one yet and it was not as funny as all the hype made it out to be, if you ask me.)

This morning, there was still a light snow coming down. Brad and Heather left late this morning to head back to school and before I even had a moment to feel sad about that, my sister was calling asking me to go out on a photo adventure with her. So I grabbed my camera and we spent a fun afternoon shooting winter scenes in the fresh snow.

I couldn’t have asked for a better weekend.

Intelligent Conversation – Not an Issue Here

Since I am swimming in a sea of overwhelmingness at work, and since I’m so absorbed in trying to catch up (I DID beat my record of 35 files in a day today, processing a whopping 48! Yeah, this is the kind of thing that excites me. I’m such a geek sometimes…. )

What was I saying?

Oh yeah… since I have my head buried in work all day, making me incapable of noticing or experiencing much of any interest, I must resort again to sharing a conversation that crossed my path.

I was curled up on the love seat after dinner, trying to read my favorite blogs, when the phone rang. As usual, I tried to pretend I couldn’t hear the phone ringing in the hopes that someone else would answer it. Kacey sat across from me, staring me down with an expectant look that said, “Aren’t you going to answer that?”

In turn, my attention was focused toward the lower level, where I hoped that Jake might pick up the extension in the family room. After three rings, I grudgingly extracted myself from my comfy seat and stomped toward the phone, asking anyone and no one, “WHY doesn’t anyone ever want to answer the phone around here?”

I glanced at the caller I.D. and seeing that it was our friend Paul calling, I turned on my sweet demeanor, answering, “Hello?”

Paul: Hi!

Me: Hi!

Paul: Where’s your husband?

Me: I dunno. I think he might be outside, trying to race the storm with the lawn mower.

Paul: Oh, okay. No big deal.

Me: You want me to have him call you when he comes in?

Paul: Sure, thanks. I just wanted to gossip with him about Bill’s big fat face.

Bill is a mutual friend of Mark and Paul, and he’s one of their favorite buddies, so I was a little surprised to hear Paul talking this way about him, not to mention, Paul is a big, burly, manly-man, and not one to get catty this way.

Me: Are you turning into a girl?

Paul: No. Why? What’s that supposed to mean?

Me: You don’t think that last statement sounded kinda girly? “I wanted to gossip about Bill’s big fat face” ?

Paul: He does have a big fat face.

Me: That is NOT nice.

Paul: He had a wisdom tooth pulled today. Bill’s face is all swollen up.

Me: Ohhhhhh…. okay. Good to know you’re not turning into a girl.

Paul: You know me. If I had something bad to say, about anyone, I’d just come out and say it.

Me: This is true. Okay, I’ll have Mark call you when he gets in.

Paul: Thanks! Talk to ya later!

Minutes later, Mark came back in the house.

Me: Paul called. He wants you to call him so he can gossip with you about Bill’s big fat face.

Mark: Oh yeah! Did you hear Bill had a wisdom tooth pulled and his face is out to here!” (Gestures with his hand about a foot away from his cheek.)

Me: Well, Bill DOES kind of have a big head anyway.

Mark: (laughing) I’m telling Paul you said that.

Me: (deadpan) I don’t care.

Mark: I’m telling Bill you said that.

Me: (still deadpan) Only if you don’t want to live.

By this point, he has dialed up Paul and is speaking: Hey, Paul. Guess what Terri just said about Bill….

I’m so glad I can come home after a long, hard day at work and not have to worry about challenging my brain with intelligent conversation.

A Special Anniversary

Tomorrow marks two years since that day. I don’t even think about it much anymore. Weeks, even months will go by without those memories even surfacing. But then, every once in a while someone will ask how I’m feeling. I always wonder for a split second why they are asking me that before it registers that they are referring to the fact that I am minus one kidney.

For the record, I feel great. There really are no negative after-effects of giving up a kidney. Other than the fact that I can’t take ibuprofen anymore, nothing is very different. In fact, I’m probably healthier now than I ever was before the surgery, more the result of an attitude change than anything having to do with the surgery. More importantly, my dad is doing extremely well, at least as far as his new kidney goes.

I’m really glad that I wrote about the experiences, the thoughts and the feelings  surrounding the events of that day and those that followed. I went back to the old blog and read the story again (and moved it over here to this blog too.) It reminded me what a monumental piece of our lives that was. My dad and I are now forever connected in a very unique way.

Life goes on though and I’ve blended back into the everyday minutia of the world. But for one day each year, it’s kind of cool to look back and remember that I once did something pretty great.

Life is Good – May 14, 2010

Remember the donut creature I left on the department manager’s desk? I was worried after the fact that she’d not be as amused by it as I was. Turns out she found it quite funny and decided to enhance it. I arrived at my desk last Friday to find this strange little food person waiting for me!

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I swear. I fall more and more behind with each passing day. I am looking forward to this weekend and having a chance to catch up on things around the house, and in my reader! (Not to mention, my oldest comes home from school for the summer on Sunday, so this will be an extra-special weekend!)

The week just flew by. (I think I say that every week!) I have been busy helping Kacey get ready for her prom tomorrow. There is so much to think about with girls as opposed to boys when it comes to prom! She chose a beautiful dress. Of course it needed alterations. We had to work hard to find the right shoes and that was not an easy task! We had to make an appointment to have her hair done. We’ve been tanning. (Her, for prom. Me, just because.) I woke up yesterday and realized we never ordered a boutonnière for Tony, her date. I managed to get one ordered just in time. I also remembered we hadn’t yet found a garter. I ran to the dress shop and bought one for her.

The weather has been cold, gloomy and rainy all week-long, but it sounds like some more spring-like weather will make a return just in time for the prom!

I’m having a great time in the Wednesday bowling league. Dan is turning out to be better than I could have imagined as far as a replacement for Gina. He’s funny – makes lots of wise-ass remarks to Dave that I would never dare to say. (See? He is a lot like Gina!) Dave puts up with the remarks good-naturedly. This week, Dave left immediately after the games were finished. Dan and I were each still working on a beer and we ended up standing around and talking with two of the other guys from the league. Turns out one of them lives just blocks away from me, so we were really getting into discussing the neighborhood and goings-on. By 11:00, we were long done with our beers and ready to head home. But before we did, Dan said, “I’m going to send a text message to Dave and make him think he missed out on something really big!” He texted Dave, “Just leaving now…WOW!”

I thought that was quite funny, so I texted Dave too. “Too bad you left early!”

Yesterday, I had an email from Dave. “How late did you guys stay? You must have closed the place down! What did I miss???”

I responded to Dave, “You didn’t miss anything. We finished our beers and left by 11:00. We just thought it would be funny to send you some cryptic messages!”

Dave said he got a good laugh out of it. In reality, he’s probably wondering how he got hooked up on a team with two such immature partners! Did I mention we are solidly in last place too? Doesn’t matter. We’re having fun. And I even recruited another woman to start bowling. She’s the girlfriend of one of the guys and I’ve been working on her for a while now to think about becoming a bowler. She has always refused. This week, she finally broke down and said she thought she wanted to give it a try! Fun! She’s going to start slowly, as a sub on my women’s team this fall.

Oh, and the donut person? Died. Must not have liked it much at my desk. It’s probably for the best. I would have eaten those Almond Joy feet sooner or later if she’d hung around much longer.

Have a great weekend!